Orgasms are sometimes called ‘The Big O’ which is phrase that does its best to impart what a ‘big’ and all-compassing sensation that a climax can bring, but is also a bit of a misnomer; after all, there’s more than just one type of orgasm.
That’s right: orgasms can come from a bunch of different places, can vary in intensity for many people, and some can easier to achieve than others. Strap in (or on, if you fancy) and learn about the many different, wonderful types of orgasm.
The clit, both being external and having around 8,000 nerve endings, is one of the ways that many people find easier to stimulate and reach orgasm. However, just because most people can reach orgasm by stimulating it doesn’t mean everyone does it exactly the same way. Some people need just the lightest licks of a tongue to climax, some need firm pressure around the entire clitoral hood in a counter-clockwise motion, and some people need a vibrations from a small finger vibe.
This might seem like a pretty basic, well-understood orgasm: you stimulate someone’s penis, be it by hand, blow job, masturbator cup, etc, and then they have a big sploogy orgasm.
Besides the fact that this is often accompanied by stimulation of other body part like the testicles, what we are actually witnessing is two discrete things: orgasm and ejaculation. Usually, they happen so close together that we think they’re the same thing, but it is possible to ejaculate without orgasm (think ‘wet dreams’) and it is conversely possible to orgasm without ejaculating.
This is called a dry orgasm; and is something that people in some cultures highly seek to learn for tantric/spiritual reasons, and also something that other people try to learn because your refractory period is said to be shorter after a dry orgasm. (The refractory period is the feel-good awesome period right after an orgasm when you are physically unable to orgasm again).
The G-spot, or Gräfenberg spot wasn’t actually discovered by Dr. Gräfenber, it was named after him following his dedication to to exploring “An erotic zone [that could] always could be demonstrated on the anterior wall of the vagina along the course of the urethra.
Despite his work, people are still debating the existence of the G-spot, but enough people seem capable of reaching orgasm exclusively internal stimulation that we’re just going to go with it. The G-spot is an area approximately the size of an American nickel (about 2 cm in diameter) located 2 to 3 inches (5 to 7 cm) inside the vagina on the anterior – frontal – wall from the vaginal opening that feels slightly rougher than the rest of the vaginal canal.
People often describe the G-spot orgasm as being less intense or ‘high-pitched’ than a clitoral orgasm, but also lasting longer and creating sensation that envelops the whole body. Your partner can employ the ‘come-here’ finger motion to the front of your vagina to induce one, or you can use a specially sculpted G-spot massager. Some people find their G-spot orgasms can also occasionally be accompanied by ejaculation, something called squirting, because obviously we thought up the classiest name possible for it.
The prostate is sometimes referred to as the ‘male G-spot,’ possibly because it’s similarly located within the body, and you can use similar techniques to stimulate it.
The prostate is a walnut-sized gland that produces part of the fluid that becomes semen. When you’re turned on, the prostate starts to fill up with this fluid, which is then mixed with sperm from the testicles and fluids from the seminal vesicles to become jizz.
Prostate massage can be done with a finger, or with a sex toy, provided it has a flared base. A vibrating butt plug can do the trick, though many people also incorporate stimulation of their other erogenous zones, which takes to our next type of orgasm.
Usually we use the term ‘blended climax’ to refer to someone experiencing an orgasm while stimulating their clitoris and G-spot at the same time, but quite technically, the term can be applied to any time we stimulating more than one spot at a time and come, so if you’re stimulating two erogenous zones at once, congrats; you’re doing it!
While many people might consider the multiple orgasm to be the holy grail of sexual pleasure, it’s actually a little more difficult to define exactly what a multiple orgasm is. All orgasms, no matter who you are or how you come by them, are a series of involuntary muscle contractions (plus a flood of happy brain chemicals). Some people have very defined contractions with noticeable space between them. And some don’t.
It’s possible that some people can ‘train’ themselves to more controlled and disparate muscle contractions during orgasm to achieve this ‘multiple O’ sensation (or, work on the aforementioned dry orgasm, as ejaculation tends to be a one-and-done deal). This type of training basically involves strengthening your pelvic floor by doing Kegel exercises, firstly, and then secondly, you’ll need to practice, practice practice.
Edging, or coming to the cusp of climax and then ‘backing away from the edge’ is an excellent way to learn your body’s orgasm cues, enhance your stamina, and work on achieving a multiple orgasm. It might not come easily, but it’ll still be pretty fun!